Yesterday's video about children's tantrums caused a huge response from you.

Yesterday's video about children's tantrums caused a huge response from you. And I am terribly glad that the absolute majority agrees: to support the child, to be with him and to help him through difficult emotions, while remaining an adult is the right way. Thanks you. And special thanks to everyone who responded to calls for assault in the "podzhopnik" thread and in the direct. Thanks to you, I see how the world is changing and turning, finally, to face the child. Real, not ideal, convenient for everyone. This is inspiring!

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Today I wanted to publish a column with personal experience of CO, but because of yesterday's wave of comments, I decided to postpone the topic a little and talk about the most important condition for acceptance and parental Zen - about the resource.

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Remember the parable of the good mother?

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Once upon a time there was a poor Jewish family. There were many children, but little money. The mother worked hard - cooked, washed and screamed, handed out cuffs and loudly complained about life.

Finally, exhausted, I went to the rabbi for advice: how to become a good mother?

She came out from him quiet and thoughtful. Since then it has been changed. No, the money in the family has not increased. And the children did not become more obedient. But now my mother did not scold them, and a friendly smile did not leave her face. Once a week she went to the market, and when she returned, she locked herself in a room for several hours.

The children were tormented by curiosity. Once they broke the ban, broke down the door and looked into the room. Mom was sitting at the table and drinking tea with sweets!

“Mom, what are you doing? But what about us? " - the children shouted indignantly.

“Sha, children! She answered importantly. - I make you a happy mom! "

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But we have already remembered that even on an airplane, you must first put on a mask on yourself, and only then on your child. And I think everyone agrees that you can only give when you have something to give. I don't like empty slogans. I love practice and specifics. Therefore, I suggest in the comments to write your own ways to support yourself in the resource. Share your findings, read other people's. Let's help each other find their source of the resource. Read my lists in the carousel 👉👉👉